Relationships

One thing that I've learned over a bit of a roller coaster of a week and weekend are some things that you need to make a relationship work. Two of the key things being communication and compromise. Without these then things don't end working out. With one friends relationship ending this week and another in a monopoly polyamours relationship I've been around a lot of talk about relationships in general.

Many of the things that was brought up was if you knew there was an expiration date with someone before you even became monogamous then why did you let it get so far as to them moving in. As well as if you're not happy or are jealous about your partner's other partners, or how much time you aren't getting with them then something needs to be fixed.

So, here's my question....if you are in a serious relationship with someone that is an open relationship then why don't you have set rules that make it so that everyone has equal time together and no one gets ignored. Cause if you ask me if you are having an open relationship with multiple serious partners, then you need more communication and compromise than if you only have one partner. If you are trying to balance time with several different people then someone is bound to get upset. One person shouldn't be the one to set the rules and boundaries of a relationship, it should be a group thing that way everyone can express there expectations and desires of the relationship.

It's been an interesting week talking about relationships and wanting to be friends with exs that you just broken up with. But here is the big problem about that right from the get go...if they are more in love with you then you are with them, then you aren't helping them by being a friend but are keeping an already fresh wound open and bleeding. Feeling responsible for someone's feelings isn't up to you to fix, even if you were the one to break there heart. Having someones life revolve around someone else is far from healthy. And trying to change that when they don't have any friends because they have done so isn't your fault.

So, here is what I've learned from the ups and downs from my friends relationships. 1. Don't let your world revolve around someone else. 2. Communication is important. If you're not happy express it. Don't say I'm fine only to let it lead to a huge fight. 3. Compromise. One person shouldn't set and make all the decisions. 4. Some jealously is ok but too much will break a relationship. 5. No matter how much you might care for someone doesn't always make a relationship work. 6. Don't let anyone talk you into something you're not ready for. Example: If you don't want to live with someone yet, don't. If you don't want to have a boyfriend, then don't have one. 7. Don't make yourself miserable to make someone else happy. 8. You need to be happy with yourself and being alone first before you even can attempt to have a relationship with someone else.

There you go my little rant on relationships. Let it be if you are a traditional monogamous person or polyamours, all of these things go for it.